Disclaimer: I give credit for this blog to a very close and dear friend of mine, who keeps on coming with crazy ideas and thoughts. This is my attempt to give shape to one of his thoughts. I thank him for sparking off these chain of thoughts in me and make me think a lot, which results into this blog. Also this blog is not to hurt anyone’s sentiments or feelings, it is an expression of my thoughts.
A phone ring, gets Karan out of his love affair with his computer screen. It’s his wife Shruti calling, which tells him he better start for home. At 24, Karan is a very successful investment banker. Very happy and content with his life, he has no regrets. Karan is a genuine person, a good human being. His friends mean lot to him, n he means a lot to them. He can withstand any problem in life, but can’t stand his friends being in any sort of problem. Is always there for them, and sees to that he does whatever he can to help them out. He is a gem of a person.
Karan and Shruti are married for a year now. But their love is 3 years old, and ever growing. They were the best of friends, buddies, until they realised they mean so much to each other, that can’t live without each other. They are perfect for each other. She understands his work, his love for the arts, and his jolly, crazy nature. And he understands the same things in her, and all the things which make her a little girl sometimes. In short they are perfect for each other, soulmates. They understand each other so well, that not once there have been any misunderstandings.
He picks up the call. Shruti reminds him, that he has to meet one of his very close friend, Pooja. Karan and Pooja have been friends since college. Very good friends, seen life’s ups and downs together. Pooja now works in the media field, is a successful producer. She always seeks Karan’s advice for new ideas for her shows, due to his theatre background.
Pooja is a lovely person. Very friendly, caring, happy, knows her job, will never hurt anyone. But still has no luck in finding Mr. Right. Whenever she is low, or life is just not kind on her, Karan and Shruti are always there for her. So the three of them share a very unique bond.
Karan leaves his office, and meets Pooja in a coffee shop. They discuss about the upcoming show produced by Pooja, and other things. But during the whole conversation Pooja is kind of lost, not speaking much as she usually does. Karan, immediately senses that there is something wrong. He asks her, what the problem is. She tries to avoid the subject, by changing the topic. But Karan is persistent. Then she says, that it’s the work load. But Karan is not satisfied with the answer. He takes her out on a walk.
10 minutes pass, she doesn’t speak a word. And then all of a sudden starts crying. Karan hugs her and makes her calm down. Then she starts telling him what the matter is. She tells him that how lonely she has been feeling lately. How all the guys she’s been meeting are turning out to be jerks. She explains to him that how she spends lonely nights, in her apartments, staring out of the window, wondering when will she find the right guy, when will she be in a meaningful relationship, when will she have the perfect kiss, when will she be loved?
Karan consoles her, buy saying that the right guy is out there, they just need to find each other. Pooja is not satisfied with that answer, but manages to calm herself down. She remains quite for 5 minutes. Then asks Karan for a favour. He says whatever he can do to make her feel better he will do it.
But he is not expecting what Pooja is about to ask him.
After lot of stammering and clearing the throat, Pooja summons the courage to ask him. She tells him that she still is a virgin and never has experienced what it is to be like, to be loved by a man. She explains to him that, she is not trying to cover up her depression by having sex, but genuinely wants to experience the emotion, the feelings, the excitement, the passion of making love. She asks him, genuinely and with all her innocence, to make love to her, to make her understand, feel what love and love making is.
Karan is in a shock after hearing this. But recovers from it pretty fast. He knows Pooja very well, and understands that she is not just looking to sleep around, but really wants to experience love, which is a wonderful emotion, and comes naturally to all human beings. And it’s her right to experience that. Nothing wrong to experience love making. It is the one of the most natural and beautiful thing. He very well understands that Pooja is not of a loose character, just looking out to have emotionless sex.
He registers all this, and being such a good friend and an amazing person doesn’t freak out on her. He says to himself that, Pooja is his friend, and is in trouble and needs his help. But at the same time, at the back of his mind he thinks of his wife, Shruti. He thinks about her, how will she react to this, will she understand all this.
Pooja reads Karan’s face and understands his dilemma. She tells him not to bother himself, she just wanted to get it out of her system, and already knew what his answer would be. And moreover she wouldn’t do anything, that would jeopardise, Karan and Shruti’s relation. She tells him not to think much on this, go home to his wife, and forget about this. She will be fine, just wanted to talk this out with him.
Karan doesn’t know what to say. He just hugs her and drops her home. On the way back to his home, he is constantly thinking about this, and is very much disturbed. He reaches home. The moment Shruti opens the door, she comes to know something is wrong with him. She makes him coffee and they sit down and talk. He tells her everything, every word that Pooja said.
Now I won’t complete this blog, because seriously I don’t know the end to this story. I want u guys, the readers to help me out.
Tell me is Pooja wrong in wanting to experience sex? Or is there a difference in sex and love making. I think they are one and the same. Sex or love making is one of the most beautiful emotions, humans can have and feel. It is natural, nature made us like this.
Do you think Karan will make love to Pooja, because she is his very good friend, and is in need of help, is in need of a friend. Is it right of Karan to think that, it is helping his friend so he should go ahead with it?
Shruti, who is such an amazing person, will she understand Pooja’s feelings, and what she is going through. Will she have so much faith in her husband, that she knows, whatever he will do, it will be right and for the good?
Say Shruti is supportive of her husband, Pooja and the situation and Karan goes ahead with it, will the relation between Shruti and Karan, Shruti and Pooja, Karan and Pooja, be the same as before?
I am seriously not able to make out who is right or wrong here? Is Pooja wrong in wanting to experience a natural emotion? Is Karan wrong, in going ahead with it, when he is married or is he right in wanting to help his dear friend? And is Shruti right or wrong in supporting or not supporting her husband, her love, her friend Pooja and the situation?
It is just unimaginable, how one will react to this situation. What will it be like to be in Pooja, Karan or Shruti’s place?
So many questions remain unanswered or they are best left unanswered, I don’t know. Is sex so “OVERRATED” for us, or the society has just made it like that. Why is it always related with a dark side or treated like taboo. Can’t it be a human emotion, a way of expressing love. Is love to be just expressed in words?
I am waiting for all these answers. Don’t know when they will be answered, till then the quest continues.
Cheers,
Kartik.
11 comments:
I think since Karan knows her too well, he will tell the problem to Shruti and analyze it ! Mean time Pooja will be over with the whole feeling :)
Karan can hook up Pooja with one of his close friend who is also single and they can go around as well !
is no problem for Karan to go ahead with Pooja since he is a very good friend of his! If Shruti knows her husband really well then i don't think she'll mind!
The relationship may not be similar the way it were before, they might come closer to each other I guess...
Falling in LOVE is the best emotion one can get... Nothing like it!
ALL THE BEST TO ALL THREE OF THEM...
I sensed what was about to come when i read this - "So the three of them share a very unique bond." and the fact that the usually chirpy Pooja was so somber that evening.
What Pooja wants is not wrong. The fact that she asked Karan about it, isnt wrong either. Probably he was the best person she could trust. Karan sharing everyting with his wife Shruti was also the right thing to do. So you see, none of these people are in the morally grey shades of character.
But what Karan should not do, is end up helping his friend for the wrong reasons. I guess any relationship for that matter, love or friendship, always hangs by a delicate balance, and you nurture it with all care. I doubt whether Shruti will be supportive of this. Just a gut feel. No woman would ever want her love to be shared. And its not for a noble cause per se, even if Pooja was a genuine girl and not on lookout for one night stands.
If Karan were wise, he would never put his relationship at stake. If Shruti were wise, she would try and talk Pooja out of her present depression and above all if Pooja were wise, she would find herself a Mr. Right very soon and forget this talk ever hapenned. Because the support that they have in each other right now, is far too precious to be blown off by overwhelming emotions
That was too much I guess... this comment has become a mini-blog in itself. But I liked the way you have characterized this blog, very nice buildup of the story and I was left dangling right at the point where I would have wanted to know where the story is going :)
Too bad I had to finish it for you ;-) ... anyways. Cheers bro. a very profound one this time and quite upfront on the matter. Its true sex is overrated in our society. But as long as people understand the intrinsic meaning of the whole thing and not just associate it with superficial things, I think we definitely know how to tackle the subject.
I consider blogging a very effective forum to discuss significant issues and understand the present-day social trend. This story by Kartik,a young chap in his teens naturally interested in such issues, is very nicely woven rather it is-was-willbe a very real-life complex in every society and in all ages. The success of this story lies in a solution which would satisfy the following requirements for successful future:
1)Nupital relation between HUBAND AND WIFE IS NOT affected.
2) Friendships AFFECTIONITY is not hampered.
3)A solution which will maintain a perfect balance between society and personal life is in terms of ethics and tradition.
Now consider what would be Shrutis reaction to this situation:
1)She will get furious on Karan and would ask him to shun relations with Pooja.
2)Being a good woman and aware of the carnal urge of a friend of husband she would guess the future and would prefer to remain silent on this issue.
3)If she is so considerate, which normally no woman with ethics would be, she would allow Karan to satisfy Pooja.
Now lets analyse socialogically and psychologically what would be the effect of above 3 reacions:
1)If Shruti ask Karan to shun relation with Pooja, Karan would be hurt and Pooja who till now was honest about sharing her good and bads with her close friend would go around with disturbed mentality.The carnal urge would drag her to find someone without bothering for enough merits and credibility to be her partner and would totally loose faith in purity of love.
2)If Shruti prefers to remain calm, Karan would at some point of time get involved in Pooja because of proximity in their relations. This would further deepen the rift between Shruti and Karan who are "made for each other". The society would also start murmuring about the relationship between Pooja and Karan creating degradation in their social life.
3)Now suppose in the disguise of liberalisation, Shruti allows Karan to go around with Pooja,at some point of time in life, one cannot deny the situation where Shruti may get involved and demand liberty to satisfy someone near to her. Can one grade their nupital-life a successful one in this circumstance? No...the married life would be termed as totally FAILED on traditional and social grounds.This would affect their life including that of their children.
Now lets analyse the situation of Pooja in these cases-
1)Suppose Karan denies her. Pooja would get mentally disturbed and would badly find some guy who will satisfy her,irrespective of his credibility and without bothering for the society and traditional values.
2)If Karan satisfies her, she still would feel insecure because Karan is Shrutis and not hers. So the next time she wants to satisfy herself, she would not assure herself that this time also Karan would do the same to her. At some point of time in future her ego and conscience would demand that"Karan is equally hers as that of Shrutis". How would one tackle this problem and the aftermaths of this thought.
Now look from Karans point of view- 1)If Karan is denied access to Pooja , he will feel sorry for her -it would affect their friendship set free-interaction and would leave the thought after some ime or would try to get good companion for Pooja.
2)If Shruti and Karan agree to satisfy the need of Pooja, can anyone imagine that Karan would do so just without any carnal urge related inputs from his side? Secondly, a relation once established would start evaluating and comparing happiness shared and obtained between the love by Shruti and that of Pooja. So Karan would be tempted to be biased in his further interaction with his wife and Pooja. This will have severe setback on his family, social, traditional, professional and moral life. His self-conscience would also get affected.
So the best solution which would satisfy all the requirements mentioned in earlier part of the response would be :
1)To take up this problem of Pooja with priority and both Shruti and Karan along with their acquaintances start bride-groom hunt for Pooja.
2)Break the Hindu-Civil-Code set up by government 58 years ago (which allow only monogamy , as against the tradition)and follow the traditionally accepted solution of MARRYING with Pooja and thus solve the problem without affecting the family,social, traditional and professional life.
Note: This nicely thought and nicely presented story by Kartik is a master-piece to depict the present-day problems faced by youngsters. Live-in relationships, extramarital affairs, lost interest in married life, suspicion in credibility of married life are modern day problems which have hunted the youngsters. This story is not a story but it is realy-life-issue which demand a broad outlook, depth of thought-action, which otherwise land a person into truce of treachery, un-cordialness and insinceriety with the near ones.
wow.....dats a pretty long and intense comment......
thanks a ton for ur valuable inputs dhananjay......
very well thought n executed reply :)
srry for a verry late reply first of all.. wat pooja feels is natural. like everyone said, nature made us like that...nd being curious, she asks her most trusted friend...However, Karan should understand, that there's a thin lin ing between love making and sex.. Unless both people have feelings for each other, love making doesnt remain the same. It becomes a monotonous exercise. Hence, Pooja should be talked out of her present state...
i may b late 2 comment on dis particular blog bt ..jus cam across n felt realy nyc at sme1 tokin abt dis particular topic....newys i jus dnt agree one thing wot u'hv wrttn "sex n lov-meking is 1 n the same"....whch i dnt agree at al!!!
i think 1 can have sex with a whore or a beast but Love can be made only to the 1 u lov wholeheartedly....so obvsly both d things r diffrnt....dats my perception....newys ciao!!!
@ mallika :
thanks a lot for ur comment ... appreciate ur point of view :)
@mallika : btw hw did u come to knw abt my blog?
arre next next karat geli re....n found a marathi guy'z blog obvsly urz!!!!
strangers r'nt allowed 2 read ur blogs kya?!!!!
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