It’s 3 a.m. in the morning and I have just finished watching a movie about 4 New York girls, their city, and their adventure of finding the perfect love. After watching many similar movies I’m always forced to think, why do we always run behind finding the perfect love of our life? Are these relationships so important to us? Why are we always in search of somebody? All this leads me to one question........ Why do we always have to DEFINE a relationship?
Now, I know, that we as a Human Race are programmed to define each and every thing that we see, hear, taste, feel etc. , but what if some things remain unexplained, some relations undefined?
Agreed that every relation is accompanied by the human emotions of love, respect, hate, friendship and all the emotions one can think of. But according to me there’s an undefined force which drives some relations. This force can’t be explained by any dictionary. How am I so sure, because I have felt it.
At my age, it’s obvious and natural for a guy, to want someone in his life, to experience love, to explore new things, to be wanted by someone else. It is nature’s law you can’t fight it. But in our pursuit of finding the perfect relation, we tend to over look the small or sometimes big relations, which we are unable to understand.
To be honest, I also followed the league. Tried to get into things, and messed up my life for some time. The feelings were true, but I guess the person and time were wrong. Any ways, moving on and journeying through I came across certain wonderful relations, which till now ‘m trying to figure out.
It took me 21 years and a journey of some hundred miles to finally understand what my parents mean to me and what I mean to them. Being the rebellious kind, I tend to argue and prove my point, well they do it too......and many times they start it.....but I don’t blame them; you know they say after a certain age, you just let your parents on their own, they are just like kids........ OK grandpa enough of philosophical shit. HEHEHEHE........
My point was, even though we have our differences, we still understand each other, love each other.
Another relation which always makes me think, is between me and my ...... uuuummmm I wanna say one of my best friends......... no godfather.......no just uncle......no........well see......can’t define it. He actually is my dad’s friend. I met him when I had just graduated from school, when I started learning music from him. Now ‘m not gonna tell you how awesome he is, you have to meet him. But this person has a major role in what I’m today. I practically owe my passion and now what is going to be my career to him. I have learnt so much from him, not only music, but ways of life, absolutely anything under the sun. He has changed my way of looking at life. The earlier me wouldn’t have been here if it wasn’t for this guy. I seriously don’t know how he looks at me, he sees me as his friend, or am I like a son to him or......seriously don’t know. One thing I know is, I respect him, love him and that mysterious thing, which I can’t explain.
I have these few wonderful friends, which kind of mean the world to me. One is the oldest, from school. She’s being bearing me for almost 15 years or more now. We share something different. Been there for each other, laughed, cried, sometimes bitched, together. And now as both of us are far away, working towards our lives, we still are just a phone call away, and still mean the same to each other. She still calls me in the middle of the night to discuss the silliest things and yeah sometimes the sensible things also.
Then there’s this awesome guy, who now I consider as my brother, but he is something different to me. We just can’t live without each other. People actually recognise us because of each other. There was one time when, either one of us used to be absent, and people were in shock due to this. We have spent some amazing years together. Seen life in all it’s colour. Many times, partners in crime and most of the time creators of awesomeness. There’s just too much to write.
Two people with whom I can be totally crazy and go all out, they have been in my life for not more than 2 years, but we have spent so many unforgettable memories. But it’s not this that makes our friendship so special. It’s the unseen bond, the trust, which keeps us together no matter what comes in our way.
Then there are a few special people, whom I met in my new home, Chennai. Two guys, who are out of this world, brothers, more than roomies. It amazes me how two people or two minds come so close in such a short span of time. May be it’s that undefined force. We have had the best of times together. Will have to write a whole new blog on that, but that later. And then there are these 2 ladies, one totally crazy (‘m gonna get kicked for that) and the other one....well I think she’s an alien or a ghost!!!!! I seriously don’t know how 5 months passed by and how we have come to know each other so well. The alien can make any situation easy , she’s got this unique quality or what I don’t know that makes the other person feel happy and at ease. She’s got a different genre of humour. The crazy one, is a different person all together, she can bash up a guy, and at same time be the cutest person in the world. You can always count on her.
And now the person whom, I was saving for the last. Met her around one and half year ago, and we have seen so much in this period, that we can’t imagine life without each other. She’s like my buddy. I’m holding myself from writing about her, because there’s too little space here. It’s very hard not fall in love with her. Which is what exactly has happened to me. And she knows about it. But still this hasn’t changed anything, we are the same buddies. In fact we are more closer now as friends. Understand each other so well. Normally in these situations the relation goes bad, but I think it’s that unexplained thing, which has made our relation ..... I don’t know what!!!!!!
I don’t tend to hate people. But there’s this one guy I wanna hate from the bottom of my heart. But somehow I don’t know why I can’t. I end up trying to put sense in to him. After what he has behaved with me or my friends, still I end up treating him in a very good manner. Don’t know what he means to me.
This is how I have come across relations and there are many small and beautiful relations which are still undefined. But I think it’s this unexplained characteristic which makes them so special. Either I’m too lazy to find out the answer or life wants to keep it’s mysteries alive, but I’m happy with what life has given me, all these wonderful people who complete my life.
